"Blame The Media"

We have to face reality that the media can really mess us up as consumers, especially women. The media tries to sell you things. Tells you what's normal and what's not. It has these high superficial standards of how women should look and how to attain those standards. I'll say that for a while the media really messed me up. I saw all these gorgeous women and thought "Damn I don't have that slim stomach," or "Why isn't my hair that color or length?" This was a time when all my insecurities where surfacing all at once. I know that I'm not the only one that has been affected by this. Then the turning point came when I just said F this. I can't reach those standards. That's completely unrealistic. This is the body I have and I have to embrace it. Now you might think that I completely despise the media but I don't, I think the usual accusation to "Blame the media" is a cop out. Yes the media is at fault but it's time to liberate ourselves

I agree the media has a large negative impact on our society. But we are the ones that allowed it to become so big. We became so fascinated with it that we continued to fund it, we wanted more. We buy the magazines, the products, glamor over the images all the while constantly comparing ourselves. It's time for us to say I will be the one to determine that I'm beautiful. I won't let the TV or magazines determine my worth. I am the only one that can do me like me and I have realize my own beauty.

After all that's said I then wonder how can we expect more from this advertising giant. How can we expect it to raise our kids and set an example when its job is to manipulate us into thinking their norms should become our norms. Shouldn’t parents and other individuals make a conscious decision to use their own logic. Especially parents who have kids looking to them for answers. Why should the media take the blame for their irresponsibility to do better. Blame the media all you want, just know that it will never be an heaven of morals and logic. All we can do is try to change who they advertise but the message will probably never change.

The media is not the place to go to ask if you're beautiful. The person to ask is yourself.

What do you think? Should all the blame be directed to the media? Or does the blame lie with us? or Neither?

EOTD: Strawberry & Chocolate Swirls

I recently stopped by Victoria Secret and picked up two items from their refurbished make up line. I got an eyeshadow quad in Closer and also their Lasting FX Eye shadow Primer. I liked the results. It kinda remind me of Swirls of Chocolate and Strawberries. Please excuse my eyebrows I'm in the process of growing them out, so they're kinda treacherous right now.Very compact colors and they are long lasting. One con I have is you have to kinda pack it on. I used:

VS Eyeshadow Quad In closer
VS Lasting FX Eye Shadow Primer
Black Radiance Fine line Liquid Liner
Prestige Waterproof Kohl Eyeliner
Maybelline Great Lash Mascara

Simplicity+Elegance=Chanel

Recently I've been obsessed with Chanel. She is truly inspiring. Her elegant simplistic pieces are just genius and they continue to live on. She was just an embodiment of fierceness. My nails are an ode to the artistic genius that is Coco Chanel and also because tomorrow is a special day and I wanted to be fabulous. I like the design, it's simple and classic just like Chanel but I think they need to grow on me. What do you think? Is it too simple or is just ehh? feedback please.

Night Lurkers

My friend and her boyfriend so adorable.


So yesterday was my friend's "surprise" birthday party. I had no idea they where going to do a party for her. I also had no idea what to wear so I just threw this together. Thought I'd share. Some of these items I already gave info about them. lol yes I know repetitive.

Leopard print Leggings: Macy's
Grey Cotton Tunic: Sears
Floral Headband: H&M
Black Flats: Marshall's
Bow Earrings: Vintage

Beyonce (Why Don't You Love Me)

I have to say this video surprised me. It's a very different creative side from Beyonce's team. This video is so fabulous. I don't have the words to articulate how creative it is. It's classic 40/50s glam. The pinup look is very chic, from the exaggerated cat eyes to the wavy up dos. Very Nice. I also love the vintage grainy footage of the video. The nail polish that she used in the video is Chanel Nouvelle Vague very similar to my China Glaze "For Audrey" nails. China Glaze is way cheaper but still fab. It's a deeper shade of turquoise though.

What do you guys think of the video? Do you think it's in any way offensive?

Floral Mania

I'm really making an effort to incorporate floral prints into my wardrobe, Especially dresses. I've gone to stores and looked at their dresses and prints but I was kinda disappointed. I did however like a black maxi dress with a bold larger floral print. I liked it but not enough to buy it. I like sweetheart cuts and the exposed zipper look. I'll probably pair a dress when I find it with sandals and a cardigan. I'm however going to use these two pictures above as inspiration. Btw Leighton Meester is the one sporting a more causal floral look. I like the versatility, a day look or more dressed up for the night. The last piece are from Forever 21. I'm of course going to put my own spin on things, I don't want to end up like my grandma Bernice ( May she rest in peace. I'm excited. Am I the only one scared of floral prints?

Play in Boston

My laptop is being fixed right now so here I am using my brother's. On Friday a couple friends and I went to Boston to see A Mid Summers Night's dream. It's a two and a half hour drive from home. It was a more semi-casual setting so I didn't get all dressed up. The Play was okay. Only the last part was funny though. But anyways here is the outfit that i wore. I didn't have anyone to photograph me so the pics are sectioned off lol. I hope you guys don't mind.


Black weaved flats: Marshall's
Love Tee: Old Navy
Bandolino Safari Jacket: Macy's
Dark Washed Straight leg Jeans: Old Navy
Bow Earrings: Vintage Jewelry Store
Bangle: rainbow Boutique
Over sized Floral Headband: H&M

*** Sorry guys I'll try to find someone to take my picture next time***